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ABOUT THE CAMPAIGN

We want to start a conversation about sexual consent. It’s a conversation we need to have.

And we want the conversation to be positive, inclusive and respectful.

Asking for consent can be as simple as one person asking ‘YES?’ and the other person answering 'YES!'

Consent should be black and white. There is no room for grey area.

This campaign was created in collaboration with the community, universities and peak bodies, including Domestic Violence NSW, Rape & Domestic Violence Services Australia, People with Disability Australia and ACON.

The #MakeNoDoubt campaign is part of the NSW Sexual Assault Strategy.

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Sexual consent is a mutual, free and voluntary agreement between people to engage in sexual activity.

You have consent when you and your partner (or partners):

  • have given free and voluntary consent
  • are of the legal age of consent (16 years or older)
  • are not severely affected by drugs or alcohol
  • have not been manipulated, pressured or coerced into giving consent.

Don’t assume your partner is giving consent. Just because your partner doesn’t say ‘no’, doesn’t mean that they’re saying ‘yes’.

Even if you’ve had sex before or been flirting, you still need to be sure you have your partner’s consent every time.

Giving or refusing consent is a conscious decision. If your partner’s asleep or they’re too intoxicated, by alcohol or drugs, to choose what they want to do, they can’t give you consent.

Always ask and take steps to make sure you have your partner’s consent.

Looking for non-verbal cues and body language can help you understand if your partner is comfortable. But if your partner’s body language is unclear, the best thing to do is to ask.

Just because your partner consents to one sexual activity or position, doesn’t mean they consent to everything.

Consent isn’t a once-off agreement. It’s an ongoing conversation.

You or your partner can change your mind and withdraw consent at any time. This is true whether you’re having sex for the first time, the only time or the hundredth time.

Consent matters every time.

CONSENT IS AN ONGOING CONVERSATION

Asking for verbal consent can be a way of continuing the conversation you and your partner are having in your body language. Asking for consent can sound like…

"Do you like this?"

"Do you want to keep going?"

"Are you okay with this?"

Keep the conversation going, both physically and verbally. Check that your partner wants to keep going during sex and if you’re enjoying it, give continuous positive feedback. Giving consent can sound like…

“I like that.”

“Keep going.”

“Let’s do it.”

Like in any conversation, it’s important to listen to and respect your partner.

Part of consent is understanding your partner’s body language and looking for non-verbal cues. It’s also a way of making sure your partner is not saying yes because they are afraid of saying no.

Some examples of non-verbal cues that may indicate your partner is comfortable with what’s happening include:

  • reaching out to touch you in ways that you like
  • smiling and making eye contact
  • bending their body towards you
  • working with you to remove clothing

Some examples of non-verbal cues that may indicate your partner is uncomfortable include:

  • freezing up
  • tension in their body
  • stillness or lack of response to what you’re doing
  • bending away from you instead of towards you
  • turning their face away or avoiding eye contact

If you think your partner is showing signs of discomfort or hesitation, this is the perfect time to to stop and to ask “Hey, are you OK with this? We can stop whenever you want.”

It’s all a part of good communication.

SUPPORT SERVICES

If you or someone you know has experienced sexual assault, you’re not alone. To speak with someone who is trained to help, call one of the following support services.

1800RESPECT

1800 737 732
www.1800respect.org.au
1800 RESPECT is a national sexual assault, domestic and family violence counselling service. 24 hours, 7 days a week.

Find out more about the NSW Sexual Assault Strategy.

Find out more about the sexual consent laws in NSW.

NSW Rape Crisis

1800 424 017
www.rape-dvservices.org.au
NSW Rape Crisis is a telephone and counselling for anyone who is experiencing, or has experienced sexual violence, and their supporters. 24 hours, 7 days a week.

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Last updated: 28 Sep 2021